Love and choice
Here's the hard question: Can deep, selfless love be an excuse for hurting people? When thinking rationally, sometimes it's obvious we should deny a request when it's harmful for someone in the long run, even if the denial itself would hurt the person now. But what's the excuse for rational thinking when we claim that we act out of pure love?
Choice
Throughout my whole journey into the "good", I've always thought about choice. Everyone has a choice. Take it away - and life becomes meaningless. Without choice, we can't be "good" or "bad", we can't decide anything, in essence we can't be alive. Respecting the choice of others has always been of utmost importance for me.
The problems start when in a passionate moment of human love, or rather, in a moment of rational thinking, conditioned by the loyalty to human love, we try to prod someone into our own way of life. And one will have a hard time trying to justify this "selfless" curbing.
In love with good and evil
When you love human beings, it's impossible to love them more or less if they are good or evil. Sometimes we just concentrate on their actions and forget about the actual person - a quick way to hating anyone. In the end, love can not be an excuse for trying to make someone "better", especially through hurting them.
Conflict
Another problem is when showing respect to one choice, at that very moment you disrespect another one. On the other hand, you can always feel sympathetic for both sides of a conflict simultaneously.
Not taking sides maybe the clue to worsening a conflict. Standing between the warring parties has long been considered a good option for adepts of non-violence.
Theory
- Choice is an ultimate right of every person.
- There's no "right" or "wrong" choice.
- We don't have a right to force someone to our side.
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Conclusions
- Keep love and respect within your heart.
- In actions, don't place yourself in situations, where your choice, whichever decision you make, would invariably hurt someone.
- Be as open as possible so people can learn what to expect from you.
- Learn to respect choices, especially the ones you feel disgust for.
- Remember, there's a human being behind every action, in many ways just like yourself.
- Learn to respect your own choices, especially when they seem stupid.
- Life is but a string of choices. Label them stupid and you label a life as such.
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Main.YuriMalykhin - 07 Dec 2007:
А я такими темпами стану, как Димон, мизантропом. Забали, бляди!
P.S. пиши лучше по-русски, особенно на подобные темы